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Hi, everybody. Thank you for joining us tonight. I’m excited to bring my guest, sparkle, Lindsay onto the [00:01:00] show in just a minute. My name is Emily Harmon.

I’m the host of the onward podcast and or the onward live show. And then I broadcast it as a podcast about a month later. So I love having these shows with my guests about how they’ve created a life that they, love living. And I’m so excited to bring sparkle on because sparkle and I met in person in Denver, Colorado just about a month ago, a little over a month ago.

And it was so nice to meet her. Michael Paterno introduced the two of us. So let me switch my graphic here and. There she is, there sparked all. Hey, and she really does sparkle when you meet her live, you know, she’s sparkly, except for that she’s short

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secrets. I mean, right now she looks like she’s about the same size as me, but yeah, I’ve got a picture. I’ve [00:02:00] got proof she’s pretty short. And Michael was like, she’s really is short. I was like, guys, like I’m right here. I know, I know. I know you took it well, I’m five foot four. Do not. You.

Louis shorts or 11. It does qualify as short, apparently five foot four. Doesn’t qualify as short to sparkle. I say it does, but you know what? We’re all great, right? No matter how tall we are. I remember once when I worked for the Navy, I hired somebody over the internet, never met her. And then when I first met her, I’m like, she was taller than me.

She was I’m five 11. She was about 61. I was like, wow, you’re tall.

. Okay. Oh, and so everyone’s sharing their height. It’s a competition. She said I’m [00:03:00] five, three. Wow.

Well, you know, sparkle. One of the reasons I want to meet you and, and you know, this is because you know, my daughter works, it lives out in Denver and we, we met for breakfast. You were so nice to meet us and just talk about the challenges of working in retail. Cause I know that you’ve done that you’ve worked in three different box stores and my daughter works at Ross and a is breaking her back.

And so it was so cool to see the two of you talking because you understood a lot of what she was talking about. I’ve never worked in that space. So I don’t really know a lot what she’s talking about. So you two seem to hit it off right away. Yeah. Yeah, it was well, first things first, I really enjoyed you guys coming up to the Springs and just given, given us a chance to really get each other space.

So thanks for coming up. I think your daughter is an amazing woman. I believe that her pivot is coming very, very quickly. Certainly I’ll be a [00:04:00] few more little moments, I believe that are there where she’s just kinda like, I think I’m over it maybe. But at this point, you know, with all of those things, when we know that it’s time for us to go, it’s time for us to go, right.

And now we know in our hearts when it’s time. Yes, we definitely do. So can you tell us a little bit about yourselves? You know, and I posted this, I said that you were on your last leg. I got this off of your website. You were waiting to be fired from your job or hoping you would never wake up and that’s a very tough place to be.

And then you begin to realize that. You had to change your narrative. And I think that’s what you’re talking about with my daughter. You know, we would get really frustrated with things and we start to realize that we’re just kind of stressed a lot and we’re not really aligned with our values. All these things is when we get that nudge to do something different, and it’s kind of scary to get out of your comfort zone, but you left your job and you went on a quest to save your life.

So tell us some more. I went [00:05:00] on the quest to save my life. Today is May 4th, 2022, and I am three years sober today and I am loving it every bit of my sobriety. I can’t let me take that back. Hold on earth. Let’s rewind. So I can say that it has been a fulfilling journey and it hasn’t been a hard journey, but it has been worth every bit of it.

The day that I decided to take my life back was the day that I knew I’d be sitting here, but I, I, there was, it was like few and far between when this would ever come. I am currently zero to three years is early sobriety. I’m almost out of that early sobriety phase. And so for me, it’s like, wow, there’s all these different levels and all these different levels of surrender and compassion and just everything you can think of that I am going through right now today, I’m extremely [00:06:00] emotional and extremely blessed.

I had a wonderful quantum Reiki session this morning with my father, and I’ve been doing the quantum Reiki with my father. About a year as well. So it’s been great to have the alignment. But one of the biggest pieces for me was I had to figure out, and it’s a quote that I, I wrote I am at currently 1,096 quotes.

I have not, not had a quote for three years that has went up and there was one that really, really stuck with me. And it was sometimes you gotta fight yourself for yourself. Wow. So what, where do you put these quotes? So these quotes are, are all over the place. Instagram, Facebook, they’re every morning they come up every morning and I have a morning motivation that goes with it.

That kinda talks about me being the, now me being in the present. A lot of people call them manifestations. Some people think I’m in their head. They’re like, [00:07:00] what the heck? You know? And a lot of it transpires from simple but deep it’s very self-reflective quotes and manifestations that you can reflect on yourself and say, what am I doing?

Or am I doing okay? Or I am doing amazing. And only you will know, you know, from the inside out, what is it, what those words really mean to you? You know? Yeah. Yeah. So what repeat again, your quote for today? Well, today’s what. Oh, if you remember, well, what was the one that you just gave it wasn’t for today?

The one that I gave today was sometimes you got to fight yourself for yourself. And a lot of people don’t always necessarily know what that means. But I do. What’s it mean for you? I was in my way, you know, I was in my way, thinking that I had to fix everything, but myself, yes, I’ve been there, all that needs to change and then I’ll be fine.

And all this change in everybody else’s issues [00:08:00] need to change and then we’ll all be great, but all along, I was not great, you know, and a big portion of, of what I do now. Helps me stay in my greatness, except my greatness for what it is and helps me love me for who I am. But the only way I got there was by having somewhat of a bottom, you know, and not everybody has to have a bottom, but you know, when you’re talking about any type of addictions, not just alcohol and addiction, but when we’re talking about transformation in general, there’s always this piece where you have in the back of your mind, sometimes two or three o’clock in the morning where you’re like, what am I doing?

It’s this aha moment. That’s like the only person that’s going to be able to fix it is me so I can run from it. Or I can tell myself that. And sometimes we run from it for a while, or we it’s not that loud. And then it gets louder and louder cause we ignore it, [00:09:00] right? Yes. We ignore the red flags. We ignore the things that tell us, Hey, it’s time to move forward.

And then there’s times when our higher power just says, you don’t have a choice, take it. You know what I mean? That’s it. Right. And that was where I was. It was like either you’re going to do something to fight for your life or you’re not going to make it. You are not going to make it. You know, one of the scariest feelings I’ve ever, ever experienced, I would say, and one of the scariest villains I experienced because everybody else around me that I was fine.

They couldn’t even, they didn’t even notice it. You know, it was just sparkles fine. And she’s going to be able to get through it like she normally does. And she’s going to be able to fix this for all. Could you be an alcoholic and people didn’t notice. Well, you know, sometimes they call that kind of a functioning alcoholic.

I don’t believe in functioning alcoholics. I believe that we function in some areas, but we’re still not functioning from the inside out. We are not [00:10:00] aligned, you know what? I had done this work so much you know, 14 years of my life, I was on autopilot. I knew it was the work at the box stores. Right?

Yeah. You just knew what you had to do and you just did it as an athlete. You know, I, I played college ball you know, tried out for the WBA, turned it down. I battled auto-immune conditions for 12 years of my life, you know, I still have them. So there was a portion of my life that was just adjusting to whatever needed to happen.

And it was surviving. I didn’t know I was surviving. I thought I was just. But all of that trauma, all of that stress hurting, not resting, you know, fixing everybody. But me, there was a point where I broke, you know, and that point where I broke was where I had an employee kill himself in front of me. And I lost it.

You know, trauma hit me. I still had, you know, all this festered anxiety, then I had never visited things that hurt me. [00:11:00] I was suppressing my emotions. And I just knew, you know, I was taking shots and giving myself shots of chemo for lupus. And I knew it was, it was gone. I was, I was going down. I was going down slowly, but I knew it was happening.

And everybody around me is like, I was screaming in a room full of people. No one could hear anything I was saying, they just said it, sparkle should be all right. Should get through it. Well, when you’re kind of come across, which you do, and I do, you know, as a tough woman, you know, you can handle anything or whatever, and people just assume you can handle everything.

So did, when that happened, when that employee shot himself in front of you, is that when like all of the past emotions kind of started to come up for you? Well, I started having nightmares and I hadn’t had an, you know, prior to that at 21, I was in a wheelchair for six to eight months due [00:12:00] to my auto-immune conditions that they couldn’t figure out.

So not only was I battling new stuff, but I still had old stuff that was just, just seeping out of my pores. And at this point I was exhausted and I wasn’t feeling well, you know, and I knew that this. I just knew things weren’t going to be okay. But I do know that I didn’t really, and a lot of people in the African-American world we’re getting better at it.

A lot of us, we don’t do therapy. Yes. I’ve heard, I’ve heard that from other guests and stuff. Yeah. Yeah. We’ve never been taught that therapy was like a good thing till now. And it’s great because now you see a lot of us, African-American people being able to talk about what made us, who we are today. You know, you can’t talk about your stuff.

If you can’t be vulnerable with your stuff to you. Right. But if you don’t talk to anybody about it and you feel like the word strong means putting yourself aside to help everyone [00:13:00] else, you’ve got to rechange that and think, wait a minute, if I take care of me first and I’m full all the way up to the top, and I start having an overabundance to.

Now I’m being strong. I chose me first. Right. And so those were, I mean, having to do that, it’s taken three years and it will take the rest of my life to do this. But the greatest feeling in the world is when you’re stepping in your power and you’re moving forward, knowing that you’re doing it for you.

And that is exactly where I am today, knowing that everything I’ve done, books that I’ve written podcast, I’ve done, I’ve done them for me because they make me feel whole. And hopefully the things that I say can evolve and help others as it may, you know? Yeah. So, oh, I love that. And you know, I think we’re all addicted to something I can be addicted.

I was, and maybe I [00:14:00] still am addicted to busy-ness. So I’ve learned how to not be busy. But that took, and that took a lot of the inner work for me to learn that it’s a way of avoiding my feelings. Right. And I used to think, cause you know, my, you know, my I’ve told you my son’s an alcoholic in recovery almost five years.

And I used to think, ah, well it’s drowning is his feelings and alcoholism. And I couldn’t help him, but I didn’t look at myself and realize I was drowning. My feelings in busy-ness. Yes. And, and you just said it, you were drowning in your feelings. This is the greatest piece. If someone asked me, they said, so you just deal with people who are battling alcohol and addiction.

And I said, well, first things first alcohol and addiction is a symptom, but what is my root addiction? Well, it’s codependency. It’s rescue. It’s depression. It’s all the things that my subconscious mind wants to grab [00:15:00] onto when I want to bring back the symptom, which is alcohol and addiction to numb how I truly feel.

So if you are a person who thinks, well, I don’t have an addiction problem, you know? Well, do you have an emotional wellness issue going on? Do you have a codependency issues going on? Is there obsession issues going on? If so all of these things deserve attention and positive transformation, right? So that is where, when you wrote that on them, on the top, they’re talking about positive transformation.

It’s really whatever you are battling in any type of addiction, right? You’re a transformation coach. You help that help with all that. Yeah. Yeah. So sitting with yourself, you were talking about the emotions and it’s sitting with yourself in those emotions. Sitting next to the elephant in the room, riding the elephant till his legs fall off and being able to say, I am one with my emotions, I [00:16:00] enjoy them.

They’re becoming of me. And they always will be when you’re feeling the pools, you step into your power doing, doing so. Yeah. And how often here’s another example of what could be an addiction or avoiding feeling? Our feelings is how often do we come home and have just a glass or two of wine or a sit and flip through the channels on Netflix and watch some Netflix and just numb out or numb out by scrolling through our social media.

Those are all ways that we avoid. What’s really going on, deeper inside us. Yup. We avoid it. We mask it. So here’s a question. What’s your go-to self-care Mariah asks my go. Oh, well. My whole entire program that I do is a recovery coach. Transformation coach is I actually challenged people to reinvent their routine every three months.

I reinvent my routine every three months and a lot of it [00:17:00] involves my sobriety first and then my self care second and then work. Okay. Now why did I do that? Because I was a workaholic and almost didn’t make it right. My life comes first. So for self care acts, what I did when I first started is I pulled the list for women 35 to 65 to older.

And I went down the list of things that I had never tried before in my life. And I said, well, I guess I’m going to try them. And I did them by myself. And most of those things I love to do, you know, Jazzercise class at five in the morning you know, aerobics in water aerobics that is some rough stuff working out.

I love to go to movies by myself and I plan it around like 12 o’clock in the day. So it’s like the movie theaters online and then all the popcorn in the world I want. So like I put these into my schedule so that no one else when they’re scheduling on my calendar can schedule there, which means I have [00:18:00] something to look forward to every day.

You know, this morning it was Reiki, Monday mornings, it’s Reiki. You know, my, my physical stuff. I work at six in the morning, so I truly truly take, put everything that I’ve used. The sculpting one. I didn’t do very well at, I that’s not on my self care list being a sculptor. Yeah. You know, you can, they let you try it.

Okay. I did painting with not a twist, but with coffee because you’d never try. Yes, and uni relaxing and I always get one massages cause you know, I have lupus. I always get my hair done. That is a big piece. And on top of that nails done, just making sure that you feel great. And a lot of times we put ourselves aside, our hair’s not done.

We, we don’t take baths because we want to take showers and hurry up and rush our whole time. Well, my entire schedule in valves that first, and if I don’t have [00:19:00] my sobriety or my self care first, you guys, I’m not going to get very far, three years of this consistent intentions to be who I am today are because of my intentions to make this a part of me for the rest of my life.

You know, its decision goal. Yeah. It’s a decision. Yeah. Yeah. I love that. So. When you named this show accepting your greatness. What do you mean by that? So I was sitting in a Reiki session obviously. And and I’m like, got this fear, you know, I’m, I’m talking to my dad and I’m like, dad, I got, I have this fear.

I I’m sitting in the void of happiness. I don’t know why. I’m not sure what’s going on and how to know where, you know, this, this feeling comes to me and I’m like, I’m working so hard. [00:20:00] And I know I am, but there’s a portion that was missing. And that was the gift of accepting myself, accepting the things that I have done, you know, like today was like, I accept this.

I accept my greatness. I accept my mission. I accept my challenge. I accept the person I intend to be and the person I’m entitled to be. And a lot of that was from me writing my book, being a better me for me and continuously reciting these things to myself to say, I accept my greatness and everything that comes with it.

And. It was the hardest thing for me to say when I first did it. Yeah. They say these affirmations, you may not always feel it or believe it, and you might, but you know, like for, it can be challenging for us. I mean, I don’t show my wall, but it’s got like four pretty big awards on it from from, from the Navy.

And I show it [00:21:00] some time. I did an episode with one of my coaches and we talked about these awards. I had to get up and explain how I got. Each of them made me feel uncomfortable, but you know, it’s like, I did that and I’m a proud of it. I did it with my team. I led my team. So he definitely should be proud of everything that we do and accept that we all have a reason for being here on earth and we all should share a greatness.

What if everyone shared their greatness with everybody else? Everyone shared it in a way that was humble in saying like, wow, Yeah, this like I literally, this morning I went and I got my chip, my three years chairs. And the thing I kept talking about was the gift of understanding the compassion. I have found these layers of compassion that I’ve found for myself that I’m not afraid to shout out to the world and I will never be, but there was a part part in my life where I didn’t know any of this.

I hit lost it. And [00:22:00] so when you lose something and then all of a sudden you find it, how does it make you feel? It makes you feel the bomb, right? You find yourself to find, yeah, you find yourself and some, and you find who you were when you didn’t know who you were to begin with. It’s like it all clicks.

And that’s why you’ll see, you know, I say, figuring out where you fit in your puzzle is key. We talk about the four walls. Well, my four walls, my body, my temple. I am becoming more curious about it every day. And I’ve said this from day one to now that if you are not being curious about yourself, shame on you, go get it, figure out what makes you tick, figure out why you have the greatness you have.

There was not a moment when I’m like, this is it. This is my greatness. It was a feeling. It was a feeling that we suppress and that we push aside. But when you allow all of that to transpire, oh my God, the [00:23:00] filling of the void of happiness and tears of joy is amazing. And that is accepting your greatness.

And then sitting in it, sit in the happiness, right? Yeah, for sure. I’m just putting up all these awesome quotes. Your sparkle is spread as a great light and of hope for all of us and yes, that’s truly. Yeah. And I want to just share, show something because for some reason, sparkles background, isn’t showing up the way she would like it.

So here, I’m going to show you this there’s her background. Look at that light in the tunnel. Yes. The light at the end of the tunnel. That is it. It’s sparkle, LLC. The light at the end of the tunnel. And I remember in a podcast about maybe two years ago, I talked about coming out of a deep, dark depths of a cave and there’s something pulling you, but you just keep going.

And I know that today for me, I’ve been crawling [00:24:00] and crawling and to finally see the light, I am just astonished and amazed that it is possible. Everything is possible. If we allow ourselves and we change our narrative, tell ourselves great things. And I want all of you guys to promise yourselves that you will tell yourself great things every day.

And when you do that, the light, it just gets brighter and brighter. And before you know, it, it blinds you, they blind you into nothing but clarity and love for yourself. And so that is what I have right now. And what I see after three years of such a, a huge run in my life, I’ve noticed that things are, things are just getting started.

And that right there is the greatest feeling I’ve ever felt in my life. So I, and I’m, I’m very honored to be on the show tonight. Oh, I’m so glad that you’re here because it was it was cool. I, I was talking with sparkle and I said, you know, I’d love to have you on the show. And a date [00:25:00] that I suggested was for may cause I happened to have a spot and she’s like, well, that’s the day of my three-year sobriety.

That wasn’t a coincidence. Yes. You know, isn’t that cool that it happened to be tonight and we could celebrate tonight and honor your greatness sparkle. Yeah, it was pretty cool. Cause Melanie ache from everyday leaders had me on last a year, May 4th live around this time as well for two years. So for the three years for you to just bring it up, I said, okay, I got it.

I got it. We own it. We don’t do it together. Yeah. Mariah says be so proud of you sparkle. We all, are you lead us with an amazing light? Yeah, for sure. So I wanted to talk a little bit, just, you know, I had a guest on the other day, about three weeks ago, four weeks ago, Nicholas. And he was talking about Reiki and how Reiki helped him go from like, I don’t know.

I [00:26:00] can’t remember exactly, but it. 12 or 20 panic attacks. I think it was a day to like one or two a year maybe. And when I met you, you told me that your dad Philip is a Reiki master and I had never done Reiki and it was right around the cause. Oh yeah. Cause it was when I was, I met you and I was in debt in Denver, we went, drove my daughter and I drove down to Colorado Springs.

You told me about your dad. And then that same week I interviewed Nicholas from Anna’s house about Reiki. So then I’m getting more and more curious. And I just thought, well, let me just try Phillip out. And I’ve had three sessions with him and he’s awesome. I really he’s helped me. He’s helped me with so many things in my life, you know, helped me see things differently.

Sent me healing energy for my hips that are, were hurting. I mean, and after sitting for an hour for our session, [00:27:00] On the floor and one of those meditation pillows, I was able to get up without feeling any pain in my hips. So it’s just, yeah. Tell, tell us about your dad and how he heals people. Well, my daddy, my dad is an amazing dad there.

I have three brothers and a sister there’s five of us. And when he took up a quantum Reiki, he’s been doing Reiki for a while, almost six to nine years. And when he took up this, I was apart from a lot of my family for about, I want to say a year or so when I went into treatment and everything else. And so one of the greatest parts about this, I’m going to get emotional again.

But one of the greatest parts about it is my dad said, you know what, why don’t we try some condom Reiki? Let’s try it for. Your addiction for your you finding yourself again, realigning yourself, finding yourself through energy. Let’s, let’s clear these shockers let’s block the shockers [00:28:00] and let’s let you become whole again, because what’s happening is a lot of people who are captive to the addiction or captive to the meeting.

Like we want to hold ourselves to that, but there’s a whole nother side of our life that we just don’t give ourselves a chance to see. Well, as soon as I hit that table, every piece of pressure in every shocker, from the crown, all the way down to the root chakra and so forth, it was pressure. And I could feel the pressure.

And I remember my dad saying breathe through it, just breathe through it. And as he was going down and into the alchemy circle, pushing out all of those blockages, all of those things that I’ve been blocking for my whole life, I was able to bring up some things that I needed to be. At that point I had a therapist.

So it was very easy for me to now not just talk about the things that were bothering you with anyone, but I could go back to my therapist and really, really get deep. Yeah. And it was a really good piece of it. So for me you [00:29:00] know, I started with, and he said, well, let’s see how it goes. So then some of my clients who were alcoholic addicts said, well, we want to try it too.

So me and him had been keeping a diary, a book of how it has changed the clarity, the sizing up of the lenses, the alignments, the power that it holds for people to actually realize what’s going on around them, through energy healing. And so we’re seeing people who maybe have, you know three months of sobriety, their clarity is 16.

You know, and, and they’re doing it two times a week, you know, consistently. And so for me, I’ve been doing it for a year, two times a week consistently, and we have seen some things, but I can tell when I’m out of alignment and I can tell when it brings it back in, I can tell when I’m not being honest with myself where the different shockers are filling, you know, I can pinpoint those and that right there.

It challenges my intuitive impath. [00:30:00] Which once again, we talk about the impact. We talk about protecting our energy. And when I finally ran into, you know, my father with this, we were able, I’ve been able to just wrap it up full service. And become a well-oiled machine like I’ve intended to be. So I needed it to help me expand my mind and my brain to so many other opportunities.

And here we are, it’s really starting to break through. So very surreal in the time we spend together, we have so much fun together. I tell you we’d be on, on the screen together, or, you know, I’d come to his house. But for the most part, just exploring all of this has just been a blessing. It’s awesome that you can do that with your dad.

Yes. And I think that too, I’m I love the fact that he was able to say, I don’t know much about this addiction piece sparkle, and you don’t know much about this Reiki piece, but together we can learn a lot about each other and it just helped him break through and have a way to [00:31:00] communicate with alcoholic addicts or people in addiction, period.

And how to help us transform by the things that are holding us back and those things that are holding us back. Sometimes we have to have something uplifted so that we know that it’s there, we recognize it and then we can attack it. And therefore now once that happens, it’s in the past right now, you can move forward.

Now you can feel free to do what you want to do and expand and have the visions that you deserve to have so powerful, very powerful, very powerful. And yeah, I’ve, I’ve only had three sessions with him. I can’t remember when my next one is, but it’s coming up and I’m doing like six sessions a month, I think right now.

And yeah, and I do it over zoom. I thought, well, how can it work? But you know, we’re all in this big energy field and you know, and it can work. It does. I also found that a lot of my standing in my truth and me speaking from my heart come come a lot from my father. And my [00:32:00] mother, they are very, very not outspoken, but they just speak their truth.

And you don’t always get that every time. You know, that, that we get a lot of superficial stuff. But when we get the real deal, it makes us feel valued and it makes us feel like we can do the work. And so I encourage people. If you’re a coach, encourage people to do the work by doing the work yourself. Yes.

When you do the work yourself, you’re your person that you’re coaching. This is why I love what I do, but your person that you’re coaching or speaking to, they can feel, they can feel you when you’ve been through it and you’re working through it. And if they’re walking with you that it’s just a surreal for them as it is for you.

So practice what you preach. Healthy value, help yourself know your, a value and keep moving forward alongside the people you’re working with. So they see your transformation as well. Well, definitely. Yeah. And I always tell people if you’re going to [00:33:00] invest in a coach, invest in a coach, that’s doing the work themselves, and that is you know, that you, with whom you can relate and that is still getting coaching cause we’re never done.

So I have several coaches and and I practice what I preach and I share when I struggle with it. And one of the things that your dad helped me with in a Reiki session, and he said, he felt like my throat shocker was blocked and I’m like, well, I don’t understand. Cause I feel like I’m pretty authentic and I share, and, but.

There. Then I realized some areas in my life when I, where I, where I kind of hold back. And I th and I know I coach in the area of mental fitness. I know my mind holds me back some times, well, you know, should I share that on social media with somebody care? You know? And, and I think when we reveal more of ourselves that helps people get to know us.

And so it was right after that, that I, that I made a couple of vulnerable posts. And I even made one the other day. I did it just on I did it just on [00:34:00] Facebook. I didn’t do it on LinkedIn, but I shared something that I really hadn’t shared before, which is that I’ve had an abortion. And I shared that because when you bring something like that into the light, it no longer holds you down.

Nope. It no longer does no shame. I did it. Would I do it again? Based on what I know now, maybe, maybe not that doesn’t matter is that that happened to me. And I felt like sharing that. And I still don’t regret it because of what just is happening with the Supreme court and everything. And I know everyone has different opinions and someone has told me, oh, you shouldn’t share that.

Maybe, maybe certain clients wouldn’t want to do business with you. And then the thing is, is that then that’s fine. Cause they’re not my ideal client. Right? Your ideal client is going to fill you from the inside out. As long as you’re feeling you from the inside out. See the difference is, is there’s a person who wants to told me that they were not accepted by their race.

And the [00:35:00] first question I said is, do you accept yourself in your race? Because if you walk into any room and you accept yourself for who you are, people don’t have a choice, but to accept that because that’s what you believe in right is, is, you know, I see here, it says, I hold back in my current position.

And I felt like when I was in corporate America, holding back in my current position was what I was supposed to do, because those were the rules and regulations. And that’s the reason why I couldn’t stay. That’s the reason why I chose not to that was what was making me feel trapped. At this point in time now, whatever I say, whatever I do, I have said and become vulnerable with myself with it.

I have worked through it day in and day out to be able to give the story of new of currency. That’s the new thing is a story, but we can’t, it’s hard to tell our truth if we haven’t lived our truth. And so, you know one of the people sat there that it’s important to [00:36:00] practice the things on yourself as a coach.

Well, all these little different things that we are learning the vulnerabilities, if you say, and Hey, I had an abortion, what’s wrong with that? It is okay to speak the things that are holding us down. The things that hold us down are the things we feel are okay to not tell anyone. Well, secrets are what make people go back out in the streets and their addiction rates are what make people get sick secrets are those speak to yourself, work with yourself.

And when it’s time to talk about it, talk about it and have some good conversation, but standing in your truth, staying honest and authentic with you. Can nobody take that away? Especially once you’ve said. That’s you, and if you feel good about it, nobody else lives in your body, but you, right. So knowing that and accept your greatness that’s right.

Except your greatness.[00:37:00] 

Yeah. Yeah. So here, so tell us who your ideal client is. Cause I, you know, I was looking at your website. You, you, you can coach in a lot of areas. I mean, you’re a nationally certified recovery coach or a facilitator for addiction. You can also help people with like you know, that are, that are workaholics because you used to be one of those two.

So yeah. Tell us you know, who you like to work with. Well, you know, my, I am, I’ve made a little bit of a pivot. One of the biggest pieces in my life now is actually I’ve, I’ve had the opportunity of having a lot of clients and coaching a lot of clients, but lo and behold, three years, I’m like I did 14 years of corporate America being, being a HR advocate, making sure I could hire people, helping people figure out where they fit within companies, helping people figure out their strengths.

Right. And then [00:38:00] I also learned the recovery coaching piece and how to put those together. And so I felt like I, I was like, I think I might be being a little selfish if I just stick with my, my 20 clients. Right. And then I said, well, since I facilitate peer recovery coach academy classes and help coaches be great coach.

That’s that’s where I need to be. I need to be in that spot where I can help coaches transform into themselves value themselves so that when they do sit in people’s beautiful disasters, they know they have support when they come out of it. Yeah. And so that is where I’m at. Now. I have my own training academy sparkle, the light at the end of the tunnel.

It is C car certified in Connecticut obviously. And I call it ignite your light, the academy. And right now as a peer support specialist, it’s really big because [00:39:00] people are using the coaches like this in all elements of help in the hospitals, in the jails, during cancer, gastric bypass, eating disorders.

You know, any of these things. If you have somebody walking alongside you, then you can do it. And that’s the reason when I turn this into a business. So that’s what I do. I have coaches who come to me and they say, sparkle, how can I get this out of my client? How can we get this out of the client a little more?

And it’s like, how can you place not get it out of them? How do you place it right in their lap and see what they do with it. Walk with them. Don’t tell them you do. Yeah, that’s what coaches were not mentors. We’re coaches. We help. You’ve got the answer inside of you. We helped pull it out, helping you pull it out.

You told me three years ago, sparkle, you better get sober. I’d be like, I’m go drink. I’ll be back. Right. But when somebody [00:40:00] said it to me, like, so what do you, what does it feel like when you do. You know, I got to go in and talking about it and before you know it, I was like, it doesn’t make me feel very good.

Well, by the end of the week, I was like, Ugh, this doesn’t make me feel very good. And I need to, I need to figure this out. Right? So encouraging people, assisting people, walking alongside people, you can’t go out there on the football field and score touchdown for them. Right. You can help them plant the seed to get their minds going to get them to say, what do I want in my life?

Right. Am I going, how can I take my power back and move forward? What do I need to do to make this happen? And then along the way you watch people do this, you watch yourself do it. And you got two people transpiring into what they call, accepting their grades. So I love it. I love it. Yeah. And I like what you talked about.

Cause it’s along the lines where I [00:41:00] coach is like, create a life you love living. It’s like how many times do we really design our lives? Like, think about what we want in our life. We just tend to every day do the same thing. And I like what you talked about, changing up your, your, your, your schedule and your routine, because that gets your brain thinking, you know, when we’re just doing the same old thing, day after day after day, our brain didn’t even have to think it’s just on autopilot.

We’re on autopilot most of the time. So is that how we want to live our lives? Or do we want to really design our lives to be like, we want them, and that’s what you’ve done with your routine. You’ve designed your year. Like I’m putting myself first and I’m designing my schedule that way. And the thing is, is that we feel like we have to know we have choice.

And I was like, wait a minute. I don’t have to do anything. I can’t be a coach and I’m half well. I don’t don’t want to be now. Yeah. I’ve got work to do. We’ve got work to do. That’s how it should look, but not just, I just, if [00:42:00] somebody ever tells you as a coach, I had one coach that I had to let go of and I had a new one, but the old one I had said it must be nice to get some time off.

Excuse me, what, what that said. I, I just don’t think that fit. You think that it’s nice for me to get some time off and I’m coming to you to try to figure out how to get more time off. I don’t think we’re going to just focus on what you truly need. Right? Because I, in my book, it states it answers being a better me for me, the book and the workbook, it talks about positive affirmations.

Okay. What you, who you are. I’m beautiful. I’m smart. You know, I love my smile, you know, telling yourself great things every day. And then there was a portion during my, you know, recovery here that I [00:43:00] said, well, let me take it a step further. What do I intend to be? And as I started using words, like I intend to be this, or I am entitled to this, I am worthy of positive transformation.

Soon as I started doing that, you know, and another quote that went huge was be careful what you say to yourself, you’re listening. So it’s no myself what I intend to be. And I throw those intentions of what I want to be in intend to be out there. It is inevitable. It will happen because I believe, right.

So you tell yourself that. Right. You believe it, as you tell yourself that enough, you believe it. And in turn, it truly does start to happen. It’s a manifestation that can happen for you. And that’s, that’s what I stand by, you know, definitely. I completely agree with that. So this, tell us a little bit more about your book and your workbook.

So my book at first [00:44:00] I had, during the pandemic, I had like 35 to 40 clients. The, the lines were blowing up. This is before I left Springs recovery connection. And I would, all my clients kept asking me the same questions. Okay. And I was like, okay, you know, I’m just gonna just draw up a little pamphlet and then, and I’ll make sure I send it in an email and I got to writing it and I have my music on and I.

This is a pocket guide. This is a handy dandy little pocket guide. This is a good little book. And so that’s when I came up with 10 tips and tricks to being a better me for me. And so I added my manifestations to it, you know, and all of it is a self reflective book. So as the little pocket guide came out and it was on Amazon probably about eight months later, before that, you know, before the eight months someone said, well, I love all the stuff in the pocket guy, but [00:45:00] I wish I could write this stuff down.

I wrote all over my book and I said, oh, okay. And. Let me make a work book. So, so together I came up with the being a better me for me, masterclass and the workbook to go with it. Which is actually the first master class will be June 18th. Okay. It’d be the first time that I actually air it out there and put it up out so people can go on ahead and purchase it and take the class of being a better.

Me for me, it is a very simple but deep book. And the reason why I say that is because, well, someone told me that they went through it. They said, it’s so simple, but so deep because it’s all within what you are doing for you. Right. I just know it’s hard to sit with yourself and realize the things that need to be changed.

And so I just say, take your time through the book, but enjoy yourself and work with yourself through it and go back through the chapters. You know, there’s a big boundaries piece in there that [00:46:00] how do you even say, how do you even remotely fix your lifts to say. Yeah, we know the boundaries piece or how do we remotely fix it to say that hurt my feelings, right?

So these are all uncomfortable conversations, but ways to smoothly transition into them by stepping into your power and using the power of your words. So, yeah. And I’m sure as you know, it’s like, as you read the book and do the workbook going back again, as your awareness of yourself increases the things that you’ve written in the book and the workbook will take on a different meaning.

Yes. You’ll expand. You go deeper. And the thing is, is Emily. So during this journey up to the three, three months up to this three years, I was talking to my solopreneur coach, Jason Tracy. And I said, Jason, I think I wrote this book for the future. And he goes, what I said, I have never used my own materials so [00:47:00] much to get me through day to day.

I mean, everything you could think of was trying to alter the conscious mind to go to the subconscious mind and do the things I did not want to do. And I kept, I was reading, doing my affirmations, telling myself great things, you know, what am I grateful for holding onto some of these urges that were happening and no matter where you’re at in this book, I mean, I could probably put it down.

And then in the next six years, Yeah, read it and get maybe something even different because I’m in a different level of my life, but it’s still simple, but deep. And I, I think, I think this is the coolest book ever and he’s like, yeah. Yeah. That’s awesome. That’s awesome. So people can email you too, and they can go to your website, the, see you got your website here, sparkle, [00:48:00] Lindsey, and that’s how they can get to your YouTube channel.

Cause you go on your YouTube channel quite frequently and you share sparkle time. Right? Thank you for a moment to shine. It’s sparkle time. Yeah. Assignments, sparkle time. And so they’re short videos. Some of them are longer. Some of them are shorter, but they’re just, you know, ways to you know, where you’re sharing your Your excellence, your greatness with everybody and giving them tips.

Right? The next site does, you know, I’m on all platforms, Romana, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and want to amp sports show that streams a hunt streams, only women amplifying women’s sports in 175 countries. So I have been looking at accepting my greatness in all avenues. My main thing on the website is going to talk to you about the academy.

If you’re wanting to be a coach and you feel that you’re ready to give a little of you, the overabundance of you, not all of you then yes, please contact me. I do courses [00:49:00] through virtual and also do courses in person. And the cool part is, is the last classes I had Emily. I had like three people, four people from the UK, so really cool.

And then I had a few people from Canada. So it’s been becoming a really big thing, but meeting all these new people who are going through and battling and stuff, the biggest piece is, is that there’s family members like yourself, Emily, and, you know spouses and siblings of people who are also struggling through trying to fight through this addiction piece.

Right. A big portion of it. These courses also help the family. Altogether, if you can learn, I mean, Emily for you, you said if you could learn the attic brain. Okay. And just some of the things you may or may not be doing right or wrong with somebody who’s battling any addiction, it helps both parties. [00:50:00] And so I encourage, you know, my dad, he’s also taking my courses.

I encourage people to do that so that they can learn each other better, you know, in that family dynamic. Yeah. Because I mean when somebody who’s addicted and you know, with alcohol or even busy-ness, it impacts not just the, the individual, but the whole family, everyone around them. Yes, personality, the irritable, agitated feeling can be anything in that addiction.

You know what I mean? Right, right. And, you know, so awareness is so important and think that’s what your workbook helps with. That’s an area that I coach in, you know, just as weird, like start to notice things and be aware. So right now, I, I just had a a pretty great opportunity come before me and that’s going to take some time and I am looking at like, all right, Making sure that I’m controlling expectations for the [00:51:00] client as well as myself, because I’m still going to put myself first and not get into that busy mode where I’m working, working, working all the time.

I’m never going back to that because that’s where I lost myself. And so like what you shared about blocking that time off for myself to do what I need to do to, in order to live a life. I love living like I do my meditations and my you know, my affirmations and what I’m grateful for. I have that quiet time in the morning, which I really gets my day going.

Right. And and I’m not giving that up. I’m not giving my exercise up. I’m not giving the fun things I do for myself up. So injuries, Emily, that you’re in about like, when you go into a new. Okay. You get to create, create the role the way you want it before you go into a place and say, you want a job, tell them exactly what you want it yourself.

[00:52:00] Exactly what you want. Throw it out there and manifest it. Now, once that happens and you go to them and say, don’t, don’t have somebody tell you what you want. You tell them what I want. This is what works around my schedule. I am trying not to be a workaholic. If these things don’t work for you, please let me know.

Right. Unfortunately, if I am a workaholic again, I’m not a very nice person. Anyway. So at this point, what, what you going to do right for you? It’s like, Hey, I control these four walls. My destiny, I control my destiny. No one else does either. I say yes or I say no, but no matter what it comes from here, if it’s coming from anywhere.

What’s the point. Yeah, I know. And so it’s, it’s being aware of that and noticing, I’ll give you another example of how it used to be for me. You know, I used to anybody that want to be on my podcast, I’d say, yeah, let’s, let’s make, let’s make a date and do the podcast. And so sometimes I would do two or three interviews in a week, and then, you know, I pay [00:53:00] money to have these edited and to get the videos done and stuff.

So it’s coming out of my pocket and at some point, so that’s the pleaser in me. And then the person that didn’t know how to set boundaries, this was right after I had retired and left my job, you know, and I got busier than ever. And so now I, I don’t do that. And if someone wants to jump the line.

You know, I, I, I asked there’s a, there’s an investment for that to jump the line of the waitlist that I have. That’s how, and I’ll do a special interview if I feel like it, but not just to please everybody. And so that’s an example. So, you know, everybody has things like this. If we just look at ourselves when we tend to point and say, this changes, this changes, this changes, you know, like I could have said so many people are bugging me about being on my podcast.

It’s, you know, but I’m still putting up with it. Now I have to look at myself, what can I do? Hmm. What can I do? Right. Well, [00:54:00] and the power of that, what you just said is what can I do? How. Do you play a part in all of your roles, your roles to come, how do you want to play a part when you find out how you’d played a part in any marriages in your addictions?

You’re like, Ooh, yeah, I was doing the most. You got to see what yourself for a minute and be like, Hey yeah. What am I going to do to change this? Or how am I okay with this? Right. So I think portion of that is being able to tell people, you remember I said it, or I have said it in the past, meet yourself where you’re at, right.

Meet others, where you’re at. You tell them, you know, this week I’ve kind of been a real piece of work. I played a part in a lot of things, so I just want to let you guys know. I didn’t even realize I was doing it till I sat with myself when I said, so. You need to hold some space. You know what I mean?

So same thing for you [00:55:00] when it comes to the job and to working, like we’re gonna have these moments regardless, but are you setting aside time to be able to sit with yourself and ask how you’re playing a part in these things and being okay with it. If you’re not able to take a second reevaluate where you’re at, it doesn’t have to change your entire work, but it does have to change your way of being like your way of living.

You don’t want to live captive to a job. That’s constantly got you run into the point where when you come home, you need a drink or when you come home, you need whatever instead say, no, I. At this time I come in at this time, unfortunately phone goes off at this time, but if it’s something that’s an emergency, maybe I’ll get to it.

But everybody’s emergency is not my emergency. And you let people know that ahead of time so that there’s no hard feelings. Right. So yeah, big practices. They respect you for that. They do. Cause [00:56:00] they’ll say, oh, don’t call sparkle. She didn’t already said, does she. We’ll keep it at nine o’clock or she’s watching her movie in the movie theater late.

Don’t call her, she, her plan. What a great F it was so awesome to talk with you. I’ll just put your website up really quickly sparkle and. L I N D S a Y for people who are listening.com and it’s going to be in the show notes too. And you can email sparkle if you want to set up a time to meet with her.

Can they also set up a time through your website to meet with you? 15 minute Calendly? Obviously on all of my DNS, I usually have a lot of people who hit my DMS up Instagram, Facebook pages, and also on LinkedIn, really learn LinkedIn. It’s a big one. So if it’s one of those where you want to shoot me a note, you have a question or you just want you know, pointers on where you go next with what your positive transformation I’m always available.

And always excited to see what else is going on out there and how many people are looking [00:57:00] to really, really take their lives to the next level. You know, we, we’ve got this 3d piece that happens in. But, you know, there’s people, especially if you’re doing Reiki that are in that, that 40 and five days challenge you to be four D five D and get in there and start working with yourself, you know, it’s real powerful.

Once you get the hang of it, there’s more to this world and the 3d. Oh, heck yeah. You know, I know it. Yeah. All right. Thank you very much sparkle. I’m going to put you in the green room and just wrap this up. Thanks so much. Thank you, everybody for watching and for commenting. We appreciate you guys. It was great to have you here tonight.

It’s always nice when you go live to have people watching. And I appreciate that. I hope to see you next week. Next week, I’m interviewing Whitney Erwin and Whitney is one of my coaches. She’s a holistic coach. So she’s, [00:58:00] she’s given me some You know, tea, herbal teas, and some different things that really are helping me with stress and some other areas of my life.

And we’re going to talk all about that and about the ways that she helps women. So I hope you can join that show next week with Whitney Erwin. I’m trying to share with you guys some of the things that I’ve been doing in order to create a life. I love living and meeting sparkle, FIFA like her and working with Whitney.

Who’s going to be on the show next week are some of the ways that I’ve done that. So thank you for watching. Talk to you later.

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